Using a Sex Toy With a Partner
Now that Fifty Shades of Grey is so popular, all of the media is talking about sex and sex toys. Are you curious about trying them but are too embarrassed? Are you unsure whether they are right for you and your relationship?
The following are some common misconceptions about adult toys:
Most people don’t use sex toys
Wrong! Many respectable people use adult toys, including people most would consider perfectly normal. Using an adult toy doesn’t make you “odd” or doesn’t say anything negative about your relationship. It just helps you have fun more fun in the bedroom! You don’t have to share with your friends, your boss or your mother that you use toys unless anyone unless you want to rabar ling.
Sex toys are just for masturbation.
While adult toys are commonly used for masturbation, many couples enjoy using toys together, whether they are female or male or heterosexual or homosexual. Usually these couples are comfortable trying new things together, are open-minded, and trusting.
Your partner will feel inadequate if you start using a sex toy.
Are you nervous that if you bring an adult toy into the bedroom, it will hurt your partner’s feelings? An adult toy can give you an orgasm, but it can’t tell you how much they love you or rub your back. An object is not a substitute for a real person. If your lover has this fear, be sensitive and stroke his or her ego a little bit. As with most relationship issues, good communication is key.
A little numbness and sensitivity around your clitoris or vaginal lips is not uncommon but this will be an indication to slowdown with the toy for a while. You may even build up a tolerance to the toys you own so it is good practice to not use the toys too often or, as an alternative, you can try new and different toys. As long as you don’t fall into a habit but rather mix things up, then you’ll be fine.
Sex toys may threaten my partner.
In a negative sex culture there are negative reactions to toys but more commonly, most men love toys. They love to watch their partners use them and they love to participate. With the latest in toy technology, many toys are designed too be used by both partners, and to enhance mutual stimulation and satisfaction. The key here is communication. Discuss with your partner what you like and introduce toys that both of you agree on and feel comfortable with.
Many people talk about sex toys, some just snicker, some even scoff, while others thoroughly enjoy them. There are some amazing sex toys on the market for men and women. Maybe you feel ashamed or dirty just thinking about masturbation. There’s no law that says you need to have sex alone; you can share your toys. Besides, didn’t your mother always tell you to share your toys? Sharing sex toys with your partner, experimenting, and learning about what pleasures you most is exciting.
Sometimes people that already use vibrators would like to use them with their partners, but are afraid their partner would be offended. Or, there may be others that tried to share their toys with a partner, but received negative reactions. Still others would love to experience them, but are too embarrassed to shop for one.
Still, it’s doubtful that most people would deny that sex toys don’t feel good! Sex aids can set the stage to spice up your love life and bring excitement to the bedroom. It’s doubtful, that anyone would dispute that orgasms feel fabulous! And, sex toys might help you have better, more powerful and intense orgasms.
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