Take Charge of Your Feelings
Easier said than done.
But life is so much easier once it’s done!
How you feel is basically how your brain reacts to a situation, whether that reaction is spoken out loud or not. And obviously, those feelings aren’t always rational or in our best interest.
However, what we do with those feelings, talking from my experience, is in our control to a great extent.
One thing I have learned over the years is, that I definitely am the queen of overthinking. But I also learned how liberating it feels when sometimes I take an emotion, take it out of my head and trash it out. And in both these cases, the end result is not much different. In fact, in most cases, it’s not different at all.
The brain tricks us into believing that thinking about something is equivalent to solving a problem. And hence we prepare ourselves for the worst-case scenario, worst outcomes, and ultimately failure.
Preparation is good, but also, over a period of time with experience, it has less impact on the actual result. When there is more thinking and probability testing involved, you are bound to cover a larger spectrum of feelings, ranging from positive, neutral, and negative to the absolute worst.
And even the most emotionally strong person will not be able to disguise this very destructive mind game. And the worst part, nobody will ever know how much unnecessary suffering you are going through when the situation isn’t even calling for it.
It sometimes helps to take a pause, wait for things to happen and then let your instincts take over. Don’t let ‘doubts’ take over your life and stew with negativity.
Let us talk about a real-life example:
I was in a long-distance relationship for 7 years with my now husband of 1.5 years. And he is the nicest and the most honest guy character that I know. When I look at our relationship in retrospect, I realize how many absolutely unnecessary sleepless nights we have spent, fighting over the phone, about a situation that was absolutely fabricated by my totally overthinking brain.
And how, despite getting all the signals that I am only making things worse, I chose not to take charge of my feelings. Things worked out in the end, obviously, but the amount of energy that we both wasted fighting over things never got better until we, well, stopped fighting even if we were mad at each other.
The bottom line here is- Don’t let negative feelings take control of your mind and soul, and don’t use uncertainty as an excuse to cultivate feelings that are not needed at the moment. Sometimes you have to know what is more important given the circumstances- how you feel or what will make things better. One controlled emotion can save relationships, save jobs, save time, money, and more.
In conclusion, what we feel may not be how the situation actually is, nor is it the guiding light to reach the end of the problem. However, which feelings we choose to take seriously and which not, will always have a huge impact on your life.
Hence, take charge of your feelings and be mindful of what you allow your mind and body to sink in and what you don’t, and most importantly,
Remember – You are ALWAYS in charge.
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